It’s okay to be unmotivated (Honestly!)
From fitness classes to learning new languages and skills, we are all trying to remain motivated months into our quarantine.
But what if you are unmotivated?
Lack of motivation for your work and for your hobbies isn’t anything to be ashamed of. In fact, it is probably better to feel unmotivated than to try and force motivation. I, myself, have been very lacklustre in attempting to do much lately. For instance, it has taken me two and a half weeks to try and write this piece alone! Whew, talk about unmotivated.
Don’t beat yourself up about your lack of motivation, though. It happens. It is hard to be motivated 100% of the time and it will become even harder if you try and force yourself to meet those expectations.
Social media has a lot to answer for and you shouldn’t let it fool you – you might recall me talking about the power of social media before.
You don’t need to pretend that everything is sunshine and daisies all of the time. So if you are not feeling motivated – be honest and let people know.
Learn to listen to your brain
By doing this you can begin to learn about what makes you tick and it is where you can begin to grow.
It can be easy to listen to all kinds of inspirational and motivational podcasts as an example. Yet it becomes a whole different matter if you don’t actually feel this way on your own level. You first need to learn to balance yourself and learn to take care of yourself first and foremost.
Being a hard worker is not an excuse to neglect your own wellbeing and accepting your lack of motivation has a large part to play here. You may even feel disheartened and left wondering where you drive has disappeared off to. As it comes with the territory of feeling unmotivated, a large enough work-slump may leave you feeling guilty that you aren’t meeting expectations.
However, do you remember what I said earlier? Your lack of motivation isn’t anything to be ashamed of.
The internet is full of sites that choose to offer courses and blogs on “how to stay motivated” and “how to kick your motivation blues” and I’m not disregarding them in any way whatsoever – in fact, well done to those of you who come out on the other side after engaging with such posts and content, well done to you indeed!
But it is worth noting that sometimes, if you’re like me, these sites can make your motivation levels worse. But, this being said, different things work for different people. You won’t always be stuck in your rut and you’ll be on the other side of it eventually. Just remember that you aren’t any less if you do find yourself struggling.
Try not to be hard on yourself
“You might think being hard on yourself is the key to getting motivated. But harsh self-criticism doesn’t work.” says Amy Morin, LCSW in What to Do When You Have No Motivation. Amy here is absolutely correct – harsh self-criticism doesn’t work.
Do you know why?
It is because, in my own experience, you will always be your own worst enemy.
But instead of beating yourself up for your lack of motivation, it might be worth writing a to-do list and work through it gradually. Try not to over-saturate your list though. By keeping your to-do list manageable, it may help you to manage your motivation levels. It doesn’t matter if your one day to-do list stretches to include two days – you can only be as motivated as your brain will allow you to be!
Everyone has struggled with motivation at some point in their lives, sometimes in both their work lives and personal lives. You might have even gathered that I am no stranger to it myself. The main tip that I can offer to you is that the way that you respond to your low motivation levels matters most of all.
Finally, remember to be kind to yourself and ask for help if you are ever in need of it.